What Motivates You?

Fall and winter for me are like the summer for most people. When all you want to do is relax, be outdoors, and just enjoy the weather. I’m not a fan of warm weather, so when it starts to cool down so do I.

What motivates you when life gets hard? What do you do? Being motivated and setting clear and attainable goals are a must to succeed in life.

I went to New York City last weekend and it was nice to get away. The main reason I wanted to visit was to see my friends and go to the Glossier showroom. I also saw the Lion King on Broadway and it made all of my childhood dreams come true!

If you don’t know what Glossier is then it is a cool skincare and makeup brand that keeps simplicity in mind. I tried all of the products at Glossier and I didn’t fall for the hype. There were a few products I loved like the face masks, face gelly cleanser, and body oil wash. This wasn’t very surprising since I do enjoy some good body care. But other than that, nothing was truly amazing to me. I did like the wowder (powder), but I don’t really wear makeup so this is something I would never purchase. I didn’t purchase  any of the other items I liked either because I pack lightly and I didn’t check a bag. So, I may buy them online at some point.

While I was there, I kept thinking about why I haven’t been doing anything blog related lately. And my mind kept going back towards what motivates me to do anything?

What motivates you when life gets hard? What do you do? Being motivated and setting clear and attainable goals are a must to succeed in life.

Motivation has been on my mind a lot lately. As you can probably tell, I haven’t been very motivated to post. But eh, life happens right? This year has been a struggle for me anyways with consistency in regards to blogging and reading. But this has also been the year when I have seen this blog triple statistically. So maybe posting less is actually working out for me? I’m heading into my third year of blogging in a few months, which is crazy! So I’d like to see all of the plans and goals I’ve set for myself truly unfold. But this is hard because I wanted this year to be a year where I focused on myself a lot by improving various aspects of me.

I’m such a perfectionist that at times it turns me into a procrastinator. Because I know that if I can’t do something in a perfect way I just don’t do it at all. So that word consistency is one that I don’t like right now. Because it’s not even existent in my life when it comes to blogging.

I’ve been putting a lot of my focus towards my future. Instead of making sure that something like my ebook is just the way I want it to be. But I’m truly working on this, promise! I’ve just been exhausted and unable to fix some things that were messed up with my ebook.

I realized that the way I feel about motivation changed when I read a blog post by Courtney Kerr from Kerrently.com. She was talking about how she went to New York Fashion Week this year by herself with no agenda. It made me think about what initially made me fall in love with pursuing creativity online. And it also made me realize that at certain points life is hard and I won’t want to do certain things during these times. So I need to give myself grace and do what I can.

I don’t have to constantly apologize for being inconsistent because life is inconsistent! There are constant curveballs being thrown at all of us each and every day. However, we have to figure out what motivates us to keep going and pushing through.

So, I’ve realized that y’all are what motivate me to keep posting new content and sharing things that I love. I’m on a minimalist journey and I’m working on a lot of things in my life. So in the midst of working, balancing, and juggling all of these things. I’m going to keep creating because I love it!What motivates you when life gets hard? What do you do? Being motivated and setting clear and attainable goals are a must to succeed in life.

how to stay motivated:

1 | get moving

For me, exercise isn’t my favorite thing to do. But sometimes I get an urge to just walk on the treadmill and clear my mind. I enjoy the benefits of moving my body when I feel like that. Sometimes I enjoy doing yoga, or just cleaning up and listening to music. Moving in whatever way feels right to you is great way to keep yourself motivated.

2 | get outside inspiration

Read a book, blog post, magazine article, or anything really. Just get some inspiration to make you want to do something. Outside influences are great to keep you inspired and refreshed to complete all of the tasks at hand.

3 | give yourself grace 

I am extremely hard on myself, which is why I give myself so many deadlines. But at the same time I tend to be a perfectionist. Trust me, it’s hard to do both. I’ve been learning a lot lately that I need to give myself grace and not be so hard on myself about every single thing. Life happens and sometimes you miss a deadline for an ebook because you’re focusing on other aspects of your life. I have learned that it is all okay. Life will continue and everything will be accomplished in due time!

So, for right now I’m going to do what Courtney said in her blog post by going back to the basics. And I’m hoping that eventually, I won’t even think about consistency, but instead its just something I do! I’m finally ready to take this blog to another level and push myself even more creatively, so let’s see how this goes!

You know, life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes you’re super motivated to get a lot of things done. Other times you just want to binge watch Grey’s Anatomy and relax for once. I’m working on finding the balance between the two and I’m glad y’all are here to witness it with me.


what motivates you when life gets hard?

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  • Going for a walk is a big one. If I can get some exercise and have time to think at the same time, it can be helpful!

  • I love this short, sweet advice. Admittedly, lately, I’ve been shutting out the “noise” of reading online and finding that outside inspiration, so I’ve been coming up severely short. I also struggle when I can’t share the things I really want to share, but are too raw or private at the moment. That’s where my mind is 100% of the time, so having to share different topics I’m not even really thinking about feels forced. I give myself grace, but it can be hard when you want people to “feel” what you’re writing even though you yourself don’t. Does that make sense? Anyways, thanks for this. I think I’m in need of a long overdue trip to the library for some inspo!

    • Yes that makes a lot of sense, Joy! I completely understand where you’re coming from, which is why I took a step back a lot this year to focus on what I needed in the moment. Instead of forcing something I truly didn’t want to put out online. I’m glad my post helped you!

  • Lynn White

    Great advice! I DEFINITELY need to work on #3! I give everyone else grace, but not myself.

    • Thanks, Lynn! I completely understand that – it takes time.

  • Trish

    These are really great tips! When I need to get motivated, exercise helps, and so does a change of pace, like going out to journal at a coffeehouse or the local library.

    • I’m glad you liked them! I need to get to a coffee shop very soon to decompress and get my goals in order!

  • Kristen Jones

    Finding a balance is so important. I usually go through phases of total “get it done” modes and then other times, Netflix is my best friend. The good thing is, it’s okay to relax and recharge–those days are what motivate me to press harder the next day. Also, is it totally bad that deadlines motivate me more?! haha I never used to be that way, but within this last year, I’ve been relying on a pressing deadline to push me to get things done.

    • I completely understand that and I don’t think it’s bad at all that deadlines motivate you. That’s nice that they push you! Random things push me, but right now it’s definitely my readers!

  • Corey Wheeland

    I needed these suggestions today, because I often don’t do ANY of these, especially when it comes to extending myself grace. Thank you for these reminders!

  • Oof, feels like you wrote this for me, haha. I’ve totally lost my drive to do anything consistently. And that has resulted in me blogging that way. I really disliked myself for it, because I had so many goals at the beginning of this year. But, like you said, life is inconsistent and sometimes things don’t work out the way you want to. Right now I am happy to be posting and I’m getting motivated again because I don’t make myself do anything. I post when I feel like it, and it feels better this way. We’ll see how it goes.

    • Haha I get that. Happens all the time to me when I read other blogs. But I’m glad you enjoyed the post! Maybe you’ll see a spike in traffic, like I have!

  • Whenever I need motivation I do like going outside or reading other blogs for some motivation.

  • I definitely understand where you’re coming from about being hard on yourself because that’s exactly how I am with myself all the time. I love your inspiration for this post and needed the motivation myself!

  • Sepideh

    Sometimes I just need to step away from my work if I feel unmotivated so that I can take care of my body and/or mind and then I can come back and tackle things head on!

    Getting moving really helps as well and really helps my mood and inspiration and motivation!

    http://www.elleisforlove.com

    • Thanks for commenting twice! Yes! Moving is great. Sometimes I just have to push myself to do it.

  • I think that it is really important to give yourself grace and space. We need both. At times, I am so focused on getting things done that I have to remind myself of this important fact.

    • Oh, I completely agree! The older I get, the more I realize this.

  • I’ve been working on giving myself grace in order to stay motivated. Otherwise perfectionism kicks in and its a slipper slope

  • Sepideh

    Getting moving is a big one but I think what I need to work on is to allow myself to just BE and not push myself all the time. I’m good at going going going and pushing myself through the discomfort/pain but sometimes I just need to STOP.

    http://www.elleisforlove.com

  • As someone who is trying to build a career, deal with the regular day to day grind, and who is also trying battle and figure out the cause of a rather debilitating ailment I get this. I usually try to keep my mind focused on one thing I can accomplish each day to work toward my goals.

    • Sounds like you do understand. I hope everything is okay with you! But yes, one thing at a time works.

  • I think it’s so important to give yourself some leeway. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves, and life definitely gets in the way sometimes!