One thing I have been trying to be more conscious of is staying present. I am the type of person that is constantly planning for the future, instead of being aware of what is going on in the present moment. I have been trying to relish more in what I am doing on a daily basis. Instead of thinking about what I will be doing five to six months from now. Thinking about and planning for your future is not necessarily a bad thing, but you have to reevaluate how often you are doing it. You need to have goals for your future, but you also need to enjoy your present. Because you are here now, and you don’t want to miss out on something.
Below, I have come up with a few tactics that I use to stay present and I hope they help you as well.
how to stay present:
focus on where you are, now
The easiest thing to think about is where you will be tomorrow, next week, when your workday ends, etc. So many times in our lives we are so focused on our future plans, vacations, and activities. That we miss out on what is currently happening right in front of us. I will admit, that lately I have been glued to my phone instead of enjoying a lot of the present moments around me. I use the excuse that I am a blogger, but that is not always valid.
Since I have become aware of this fact, I have been working on appreciating where I am in my life right now. Instead of constantly thinking about where I will be next year. If I’ll be in another state, or if I’ll still be here. The best thing to do is to relish in the moment you are in. Hangout with old friends, take up a new hobby, or pay attention to what your family is talking about at the dinner table. It’s the little things that truly matter and they are the things that you will remember for years to come. You won’t remember all of the nights you stayed up late because you couldn’t figure out what your five-year plan will be.
I am the first person to admit that I am definitely a planner. I use my iCal, paper weekly planner, and to-do lists all day, everyday. But when I think back on moments in my life that were a little unforgettable and a lot of fun. They were very sporadic and spontaneous.
Learn to take chances. Don’t always hold yourself back from something that you can do today. Maybe you will miss a deadline, or you won’t send an email at the exact time you were supposed too. But if you can gain a memorable experience, I’m pretty sure that you will remember that a lot more than you will remember what you ate for lunch that day. Don’t you agree?
get out of the comfort zone
The easiest way to inhibit yourself from doing something is to only go as far as you are comfortable. It is very uncomfortable for me to network, or try to make connections with others. But if I never did so I would not have had brands reach out to me, or make affiliate networking connections. I would continue to think about how I can add this to my to-do list and do it sometime in the near future. But why would you want to wait to do something later when you have the opportunity right in front of you?
go through life slowly
Lately, I have been practicing the art of slow living. By being able to enjoy the present moment and notice what I am doing on a daily basis. Of course, I am still an avid planner, but I pay more attention to what I am doing and my surroundings. I don’t want to miss out on life. I want to have fun and take advantage of what I can while I am still here on earth.
Learn to take advantage of the moment that you are currently in. Visit places nearby that you’ve never been too. Don’t just eat food, taste it. Remember experiences and make moments last – you will notice a difference in your life as you begin to do so.
Learn to not just purchase things just because you can. Learn to value what you bring into your home, or into your midst (including people). Don’t let people, or objects upset you all of the time. Although, I know that sometimes things are beyond our control. However, you can control who your friends by getting rid of people that are very toxic. Value who you are and practice self-care. Evaluate your spending habits and learn to say no.
Since, I have begun living a simple and minimal lifestyle I have notice such a big change in my life along with a lot of clarity in situations that I did not realize previously.
Since I am such a future-minded person. I use journaling a means to get all off my thoughts on paper, so my mind stays clutter-free. If I didn’t do this I would constantly worry, or think about what I need to do tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. I use journaling as a way to right down all of my anxieties. It is a great way to figure out why my mind is constantly drifting so far into the future.
Learn to journal more by getting a notebook that you like, and pen you like to write with. Choose a time once a week to write down everything that is on your mind, or is bothering you. This way you can stay in the present moment and you will be able to pay more attention to your current situation instead of allowing your mind to stay far in the future.
It has been a few years since I read the book, Boundaries. But after I read this book part of my life has changed forever. This book teaches you how to set boundaries in every single aspect of your life. You learn to appreciate certain people and moments in your life and let go of others. It teaches you stay present in the moment and to not allow others, or yourself deter you from having a positive life and mindset.
I highly recommend that you read this book. Especially if you want to take more control of your life, and you want to focus more on the present day.